was closely associated with events leading to the engagement of a friend of mine...some random observations.....

the situation was chaotic...far cry from streamlined event management!!!when the family conversed with each other, it was in monosyllables or more often than not an argument....if tenderness and civility were any indicators, they were very poor performers...there was discernible harshness...impoliteness, intolerance all round....

yet they were all connected to a common objective, my friend's engagement..it was a big event for each one of them...

to a casual onlooker, it may seem like a battle of wits all around...daggers drawn with the consideration of every issue...

hardly, the stereotype image of a household in harmony...

have observed similar situations very often...

wonder whether it is my stereotype positioning of tenderness , civility adding to better harmony which needs a re-examine...mebbe it is just a different expression of love!!!

which brings me to another observation...it is so easy to be good and nice to absolute strangers including the rickshaw driver who drops u....but it seems so difficult to be civil and courteous to our parents, our spouses, our children etc...constant and harsh judgements, unforgiving, intolerant,..........we are rarely able to be friends...

not the norm, but a very frequent occurance....