To me , to "relate" is essentially a total and unconditional acceptance of the other.
very often, i have seen that in our efforts at "meditation", we often strengthen unconsciously the very objects we seek liberation from.
The perspective of this post is not to be critical or judgemental of any processes one may be tuning in with.I have traversed through various techniques and processes in the quest of discovering something that would "work" for me.
The sharing is in that context. We have to see what works for us, if we are in an explorative process.We have to "experience" desirable results for us.