reality check....

very often, we create our own associations with labels...a friend of mine, on a personal match fixing endeavour, networks through various websites and the like to meet up and explore suitable prospects...

the other day, he was very excited about meeting a highly educated person, who worked in the ngo sector with the mentally challenged...my friend plays a critical role in supporting a spastic nephew, whose mother killed herself soon after the child's birth, unable to face the situation...while checking out prospective alliances, this is an aspect my friend critically addresses...

other things being acceptable, my friend expected this prospective partner to empathize with his perspectives of support regarding the nephew...

it did not happen....primarily on account of the dependency of the spastic nephew....

i would not like to judge the other person in q...

but generically, guess, it is much easier to deal with "issues" as "issues" rather than as realities in flesh and blood...issues are much easier to handle at "safe distances" from ourselves...