decision making....
Decision making is a traumatic process for most people. Conflicts sap our energies and we feel tired and resign to the inevitable. Sometimes too much analysis paralyzes us into inaction.
Normally, we focus on the content of the conflict and debate on it's right and wrong, the pros and cons. It leads us nowhere.
We have to rather focus on the process of conflict.
Conflict is intrinsic to decision making of the mind when it involves inner world aspects like joy, fulfilment and love.
One has to just watch that the mind is functioning and the conflict would just drop. Conflict is a quality of the process , nay of content.
In our colloquial worlds, we take decisions when we are disturbed , agitated, restless.
It would help us is we watch the disturbance, the agitation, the restlessness.As we watch, we get de-clutched and we sublime into a creative silence. it is this silence which is capable of decisions. Decisions just flow through us, it is not a struggle. It is not a fight ; it is rather a flow, an explore of a new experience. And irrespective of the outcome of the experience, we are always richer with the learning.
Sometimes, we have already decided, a disturbance within has consumed us and coerced a decision. Then, we try to fit our reality into this decision. A conditioning within you hates a person. This becomes a positionality and consumes us. Whatever the person does will necessarily be viewed negatively by us. This is an automation of the decision making process.In such a situation, our relationship is only with the image of a person we have created within us.There is no actual relationship. The reality of most of us today...
The inner silence. a state of nothingness where all chatter ceases enables us to live; else it is our various disturbances that is taking decisions - fear, lust, guilt etc...Do not fight them; make friends with them and as u be with them, the de-clutch occurs....
Normally, we focus on the content of the conflict and debate on it's right and wrong, the pros and cons. It leads us nowhere.
We have to rather focus on the process of conflict.
Conflict is intrinsic to decision making of the mind when it involves inner world aspects like joy, fulfilment and love.
One has to just watch that the mind is functioning and the conflict would just drop. Conflict is a quality of the process , nay of content.
In our colloquial worlds, we take decisions when we are disturbed , agitated, restless.
It would help us is we watch the disturbance, the agitation, the restlessness.As we watch, we get de-clutched and we sublime into a creative silence. it is this silence which is capable of decisions. Decisions just flow through us, it is not a struggle. It is not a fight ; it is rather a flow, an explore of a new experience. And irrespective of the outcome of the experience, we are always richer with the learning.
Sometimes, we have already decided, a disturbance within has consumed us and coerced a decision. Then, we try to fit our reality into this decision. A conditioning within you hates a person. This becomes a positionality and consumes us. Whatever the person does will necessarily be viewed negatively by us. This is an automation of the decision making process.In such a situation, our relationship is only with the image of a person we have created within us.There is no actual relationship. The reality of most of us today...
The inner silence. a state of nothingness where all chatter ceases enables us to live; else it is our various disturbances that is taking decisions - fear, lust, guilt etc...Do not fight them; make friends with them and as u be with them, the de-clutch occurs....
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Many years ago, a mere lad, I asked Ram Dass about decision-making. He said, "It doesn't really matter what you do; I use a coin a lot." Being impressionable, I took his advice to heart and began using a coin for the most minor decisions of my daily life--fried or srambled?--to the biggest ones: Heads I get married, tails I'm gay. Then one day not too long ago I "decided" to flip a coin to determine whether or not I should continue using the coin method. It came up tails, for no. In a panic, I went for two out of three, but lost, and had to retire the coin. And now I find I have absolutely no idea what to do most of the time!
Eliezer Sobel
author of The 99th Monkey: A Spiritual Journalist's Misadventures with Gurus, Messiahs, Sex, Psychedelics and Other Consciousness-Raising Adventures
www.the99thmonkey.com
tx for dropping by...guess nothing ever matters , but find "watching" fun all the same...
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