Normally, we focus on the content of the conflict and debate on it's right and wrong, the pros and cons. It leads us nowhere.
We have to rather focus on the process of conflict.
Conflict is intrinsic to decision making of the mind when it involves inner world aspects like joy, fulfilment and love.
One has to just watch that the mind is functioning and the conflict would just drop. Conflict is a quality of the process , nay of content.
In our colloquial worlds, we take decisions when we are disturbed , agitated, restless.
It would help us is we watch the disturbance, the agitation, the restlessness.As we watch, we get de-clutched and we sublime into a creative silence. it is this silence which is capable of decisions. Decisions just flow through us, it is not a struggle. It is not a fight ; it is rather a flow, an explore of a new experience. And irrespective of the outcome of the experience, we are always richer with the learning.
Sometimes, we have already decided, a disturbance within has consumed us and coerced a decision. Then, we try to fit our reality into this decision. A conditioning within you hates a person. This becomes a positionality and consumes us. Whatever the person does will necessarily be viewed negatively by us. This is an automation of the decision making process.In such a situation, our relationship is only with the image of a person we have created within us.There is no actual relationship. The reality of most of us today...
The inner silence. a state of nothingness where all chatter ceases enables us to live; else it is our various disturbances that is taking decisions - fear, lust, guilt etc...Do not fight them; make friends with them and as u be with them, the de-clutch occurs....