colloquial relationships....

man does not know "love".........man knows to use and to be used.....love is beyond realms of the mind....beyond transactional spaces...a defn of colloquial relationships in the words of my master goes thus, "He needs her need of him; she needs his need of her".....nothing wrong in that if we see it for what it is....we like to cloak it in declarations of love.....fooling ourselves......manipulations,mistrust,suspicion deceit, dominations, subtle abuses, cosmetic moralities.....everything emerging purely in aspects of conveniences....so many people expressing moral indignation over the presence of dance bars recently....an enforced closure....to me morality is conspicuous by its absence in the way human beings who function as bar girls and whores have been treated..every human being is in a market place today where emotions are traded for security.......what are we talking about....people fall in love , rarely with other humans, more often with bank balances and other security nuances...it is a quality which permeates every aspect of our lives today and we express indignation at social manifests of it.....judge harshly when we ourselves are an intrinsic part of it.....are we any different from those we tend to judge....

and not to mention the horrors that abound in "institutionalised" spaces....institutions don't sanctify human interface; the attitudes people bring in, do. so much rape one hears of in marriage spaces and so much abuse.....subtle games of control.....can things be more immoral?

Morality is a dynamic born in respect....

morality aspects, today, are mere conveniences to mask our lack of integrity and fundamental immoralities .....

these have nothing to do with love as i have known it..unconditional, accepting, nourishing, enriching, not transactional.......i have experienced such spaces with my master....just a state of being.....not a set of activities.....transacted in exchange for security......

love is a river in flow flooding all in its wake....