the need to feel needed....

this post is a special for a new blog friend of mine , very young guy , from down under, he is going through his first heartbreak it seems...

we "need" to feel "needed"....and in my opinion, mistake this need, for love...

he needs her need of him and she needs his need of her...this would sum up most colloquial relationships....and when this equation gets skewed, heartbreaks occur....

i am not saying it is wrong...it just is..we need to be able to see it for what it is...

our whole life is a pathetic struggle to make ourselves more "desirable" in the eyes of the other...because of a constant "insecurity", the threat of not being needed any longer..

a mother feels threatened after the marriage of her son....she feels her "need" in his life has been eroded....

we do it at our workplaces, want to be indispensable to the boss.....so that we are not insecure of our future there...

to me, love happens only when "my need" has dissolved....until then it is a transaction....to grow in love, the "i" has to dissolve....love manifests when "i" am not....it is state of being..a river in flow....and heartbreaks are blessings in disguise for us to understand the true nature and power of love....

love is not insecure....they are mutually incompatible....it does not know fear..., "my need" experiences insecurity, fear....please note, i do not condemn it for what it is, but to avoid misery, it is critical to see things as they are....else, we will be "dis"illusioned""....

to expand our consciousness in love, to me, is the purpose of our lives, while we do keep addressing our needs as they occur....

from here and there....

Put your awareness to work, not your mind

Put your awareness to work, not your mind. The mind is not the right instrument for this task. The timeless can be reached only by the timeless. Your body and your mind are born subject to time; only awareness is timeless, even in the now.

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The Ripple Effect

The Master was walking through the fields one day when a young man, a troubled look upon his face, approached him. "On such a beautiful day, it must be difficult to stay so serious," the Master said. "Is it? I hadn't noticed," the young man said, turning to look around and notice his surroundings. His eyes scanned the landscape, but nothing seemed to register; his mind elsewhere. Watching intently, the Master continued to walk. "Join me if you like." The Master walked to the edge of a still pond, framed by sycamore trees, their leaves golden orange and about to fall. "Please sit down," the Master invited, patting the ground next to him. Looking carefully before sitting, the young man brushed the ground to clear a space for himself. "Now, find a small stone, please," the Master instructed. "What?" "A stone. Please find a small stone and throw it in the pond." Searching around him, the young man grabbed a pebble and threw it as far as he could. "Tell me what you see," the Master instructed. Straining his eyes to not miss a single detail, the man looked at the water's surface. "I see ripples." "Where did the ripples come from?" "From the pebble I threw in the pond, Master." "Please reach your hand into the water and stop the ripples," the Master asked. Not understanding, the young man stuck his hand in the water as a ripple neared, only to cause more ripples. The young man was now completely baffled. Where was this going? Had he made a mistake in seeking out the Master? After all he was not a student, perhaps he could not be helped? Puzzled, the young man waited. "Were you able to stop the ripples with your hands?" the Master asked. "No, of course not." "Could you have stopped the ripples, then?" "No, Master. I told you I only caused more ripples." "What if you had stopped the pebble from entering the water to begin with?" The Master smiled such a beautiful smile; the young man could not be upset. "Next time you are unhappy with your life, catch the stone before it hits the water. Do not spend time trying to undo what you have done. Rather, change what you are going to do before you do it." The Master looked kindly upon the young man. "But Master, how will I know what I am going to do before I do it?" "Take the responsibility for living your own life. If you're working with a doctor to treat an illness, then ask the doctor to help you understand what caused the illness. Do not just treat the ripples. Keep asking questions." The young man stopped, his mind reeling. "But I came to you to ask you for answers. Are you saying that I know the answers?" "You may not know the answers right now, but if you ask the right questions, then you shall discover the answers." "But what are the right questions, Master?""There are no wrong questions, only unasked ones. We must ask, for without asking, we cannot receive answers. But it is your responsibility to ask. No one else can do that for you."

-Unknown author

out of the closet....

insights to life and learning can never be complete without an understanding and acceptance of the sexual urge....

my learnings in this space have been tough...have floundered, fallen flat....

the teen years were horrific...cyclones of lustful thoughts overpowering me....accompanied by guilt....i belong to a social generation in india which can be termed the "in-between"..I am honestly glad that issues of sexuality are more openly discussed these days in india....i almost felt it was "wrong" to feel those urges...i never understood where they originated....i only knew there was nothing i could do about it....i could not stop its emergence within and fear of social ostracization would not allow me any expression outside....it was as if you were a "criminal"....

i had lost my father when i was 14...and being a lone child....had no one to discuss these aspects...my mother came from a very "positional space" on such aspects...dont blame here..she had inherited her conditionings....i saw her judging and condemning scenes on television( not much to them in those days anyways...)........i was afraid of falling down in her eyes....and in the eyes of a very judgemental society....

the cyclones within only seemed to grow....in my learnings later, i realized the link of lust to guilt, suppression, boredom, meaninglessness....a catch 22....

lust is miserable..makes you vulnerable....awkward....embarassed....we make fools of ourselves more often than not ....face condemnation....add to this conventional religion and other spaces..even recently, someone told me they are "baser" instincts....while respect their pov, i wonder however...for me , everything can be sacred...

a lot of insights and learnings in this space....critical personal need to understand the same...

it took me a lot of personal breakthroughs in conditioned and fear spaces to be able to accept myself with "lust"....i saw myself as being thoroughly "capable" of using people under the influence of such a cyclone within....it has been "fear" of ostracization which prevented me, not any morality standards...

activities seem to get sanctified in india through institutionalization....in my explores through human spaces and in my capacity as an "informal counsellor"to innumerable fellow humans over the last 10-12 years, I have come across horrors in institutionalised spaces....unconscious use and abuses...."rape"; i perceive it as non-consensual and forced acts....is very common....in institutionalised spaces....basic civilities and courtesies seem thrown to the wind, under the influence of the cyclone of lust...

even in conservative india, i have come across horrific instances of fathers/uncles raping their daughters/neices....their suppressions are unmanageable and it is socially unacceptable for them to visit red-light facilities....they are "decent" folk....raping their daughters and forcing them into silence is a very convenient option....and more horrifically, when i have spoken to some mothers about this , they are silent co-conspirators....it is more important for them to protect their husband's images in society....

in another instance, i came across the wife of a diamond czar raun away..and feel ridiculously frightened....she came from a poor family....the czar had met her at a regular pick-up spot - a dance bar....was an elderly man and got obsessed... in a mutually beneficial transaction, they got married....but she was kept as a prisoner..she could not meet anyone..he was frightened....she was sexually unfulfilled....

the only way out, use her money to link up with her driver who used to stay in the servants quarters......until he started blackmailing her...

sounds like a movie....it happens more often in real time than one would imagine....only carefully camouflaged and suppressed....

sad , but true...

this happens in the land which gave the world a treatise on love-making, the kamasutra...

like any other activity, our perceptions and the attitude we bring in make all the difference..the space can be an abusive space, enhancing our vulnerablities or it can be sacred , sensitive space, helping us free ourselves....healing space....it can be an artform, spiritually elevating and nourishing....or it can take us into further abyss of vulnerability and misery...

denial is no solution.....and condemnation , in my opinion, is a pathetic social management mechanism....a brushing under the carpet syndrome, a temporary convenience...

it is critical to remain centred and be aware....of our vulnerabilities...else , we invite abuses stemming from our vulnerabilities...the same can make us insensitive and unconscious abusers too....freer functional spaces in the western cultures , in the absence of a dynamic awareness, have also led to so much chaos and confusion in this space.

mutual respect is the key in any interface.....it is important for partners to be friends...and an integral awareness of our real selves in the space....

to me, no activity is "right" or "wrong"; our valuations are purely contextual....any activity can be heightened to the greatest levels of spiritual fulfilment and joy, very liberating....or it can further push us into vulnerability, misery and suffering....our contexts are a matter of choices we make....nothing absolute about them....

let not standards of morality emerge and be implemented purely in an ambience of fear and enforced adherences.....let us tackle the fear....and let dynamic and spontaneous moralities evolve in our individual spaces...the way we chose it....

let love express itself as a nourishing, healing and enriching state of being in spaces we chose to share..love is not an activity or a pre-defined space of interface...it is a state of being, a fountainhead within ourselves, which manifests as a flood....in spaces we flow through....lust, the miserable, vulnerable aspect is absent in love spaces....creative , aesthetic mental, physical and spiritual interfaces happen....moments of liberation...

happy diwali....

a very happy, safe and self-illuminating diwali to all of you and your dear ones....

prisoners of blue prints..

a few years back , i lost a very close friend to a gruesome murder. While the incident by itself was traumatic, it was qualified by an added dimension...

those days, i used to be randomly intuitive and sometimes just predict...typical college level past-time..for me , it was not an acquired skill however..it just had randomly happened and i enjoyed a reasonable reputation...

it was the ganesh utsav festival in our locality....as volunteers , we used to stay the night in the pandal...one such night , at about 2 am, this friend of mine insisted i read his palm....i was reluctant, but he kept persisting...i just glanced at it, and the words just sprang out of me...take care..u are in line for a violent death before ur birthday..his birthday was on dec 6th.

a hushed silence followed....the entire group was aware that this friend had started moving in undesirable circles....he had gotten into drugs, the underworld etc through routine college networks...and was on his way out of such connections...an unacceptable happening in such equations....we also knew the personal traumas that had made him gravitate thus...

we decided to organize what is known as "fielding" in mumbaiyya parlance...one of us would always be with him to avoid any untoward flare - ups...thus it was for about 2 months...

on dec 1st , i was with him at our local khatta....those were not the days of mobile cell phones...it was twilight hour...

i was called by somebody saying there was telephone call for me...i went in...it was a dud call...and in the meantime , my friend had been butchered with 13 stab wounds.. i had to do the honours of identifying and claiming his body...

while his death was itself a shock, a deeper personal q troubled me...i had been able to predict because there was something predictable...a pattern which led him there....so what about free will and the power of our choices....it rankled me no end...i felt a lot of resentment at my ignorance on this fundamental aspect....there were various theories but none that i could actually authebticate for myself...they were just theories, nothing more, for me.

was a critical trigger in the process of my explores..i did discover to my dismay that we were indeed prisoners of a blueprint, a set of patterns accumalated from myriad sources...next q , are we condemned in such space?

i discovered that , the blue print is a mind impress....a kind of a pattern from past life impressions, fundamental childhood decisions and so on.....most of these blueprints take shape by the time we are 5-6 years old..a few even happen later....

and it is possible to be liberated of the mind...when we discover spaces beyond the mind....

this does not imply that "we lose our mind".....

the mind is a wonderful faculty that we have to use....unfortunately, it has begun using us....

for me, understanding the whole dynamic of grace played a critical role in this process...i am still in process...learning by the moment.....

but i am experiencing much greater freedom inside me than say `10 years back when these questions crippled and paralysed me...i am able to breathe...

i see the world as multi-media classroom designed to set us free....through the bridge of events that occur in our lives...each event comes with its learning...but then we have to learn to learn...

i am no special human..just a face in the crowd , with a desire to live, not merely exist...but then, life had pushed me to corners from where I had no choice but to find a way or to succumb....in a way, i see that as a blessing in disguise...

guess, there maybe as many routes and discoveries as there are humans..unique domains of explores....in our own universes...

i wish and pray that every single human who experiences such suffocation within should discover these dimensions beyond their blueprints..which can set them free....if they so desire it...

reality check....

very often, we create our own associations with labels...a friend of mine, on a personal match fixing endeavour, networks through various websites and the like to meet up and explore suitable prospects...

the other day, he was very excited about meeting a highly educated person, who worked in the ngo sector with the mentally challenged...my friend plays a critical role in supporting a spastic nephew, whose mother killed herself soon after the child's birth, unable to face the situation...while checking out prospective alliances, this is an aspect my friend critically addresses...

other things being acceptable, my friend expected this prospective partner to empathize with his perspectives of support regarding the nephew...

it did not happen....primarily on account of the dependency of the spastic nephew....

i would not like to judge the other person in q...

but generically, guess, it is much easier to deal with "issues" as "issues" rather than as realities in flesh and blood...issues are much easier to handle at "safe distances" from ourselves...

was closely associated with events leading to the engagement of a friend of mine...some random observations.....

the situation was chaotic...far cry from streamlined event management!!!when the family conversed with each other, it was in monosyllables or more often than not an argument....if tenderness and civility were any indicators, they were very poor performers...there was discernible harshness...impoliteness, intolerance all round....

yet they were all connected to a common objective, my friend's engagement..it was a big event for each one of them...

to a casual onlooker, it may seem like a battle of wits all around...daggers drawn with the consideration of every issue...

hardly, the stereotype image of a household in harmony...

have observed similar situations very often...

wonder whether it is my stereotype positioning of tenderness , civility adding to better harmony which needs a re-examine...mebbe it is just a different expression of love!!!

which brings me to another observation...it is so easy to be good and nice to absolute strangers including the rickshaw driver who drops u....but it seems so difficult to be civil and courteous to our parents, our spouses, our children etc...constant and harsh judgements, unforgiving, intolerant,..........we are rarely able to be friends...

not the norm, but a very frequent occurance....

our universe..created by our minds...

couple of interesting posts on fellow blogger spaces on the horrific things wo/man is capable of inflicting on him/herself and on others...

guess, happy people spread happiness and cheer, unhappy people can only spread what they intrinsically possess, deep down...to me, the energy one brings into shared space is a critical aspect....while one may try to be good and caring conceptually, what manifests is the conflicts within...

while welfare and immediate perspectives are called for at individual and collective levels , somewhere one has to explore the root causes which contribute to such happenings...every human life is a story, a saga...a legacy of pain and suffering acquired from hurts, fears, conflicts etc...and this finds manifestation in the world outside...more often than not...

horror stories of abuse such as the ones shared are more frequent than one would like it to be....neither is it limited to the under-privileged or the illiterate...add to this , subtle dominations, mind games of one upmanship and various other automated reactionary patterns, as i see them;

the kurukshetra within the mind is what manifests outside...the mind is the creator of our universes...

beautiful things also co-exist, but fewer and far in-between...

life, to me is an artform to be savoured and celebrated....but , somehow, the most beautiful things tend to get convoluted and contorted....joy and love sacrificed at the altar of dead habit and unconscious mechanizations....within mind space...

moot question....do events cause suffering or vice versa....

for me, the reality is that the external world is a manifest of our inner state of being, both at micro and macro levels...individually and collectively....emerging from deeply set patterns of mental formations and conditionings...

to liberate oneself, one needs to take responsibility...it does not matter who or what caused it...and assigning blame....that takes us no where. just maintains or aggravates the status quo...we owe it to ourselves to break free.....of stifling patterns that create a blueprint of our lives and imprison us within...

integrity in awareness...the key....

space and time...

To locate a thing you need space, to place an event you need time; but the timeless and spaceless defies handling. It makes everything perceivable, yet itself is beyond perception. The mind cannot know what is beyond the mind, but the mind is known by what is beyond it.

- author unknown

a sufi express...

dil hi nahin tho dil ke saharon ka kya karoon,

jab pas tum nahin tho , baharon ka kya karoon...

-from a sufi lyric...

sometimes, let us agree to disagree...

blog spaces are a transaction platform in ideas, perceptions, concepts....and perceptions are but a snapshot at a given moment in time and space..as a tao insight beautifully expresses, the journey , in itself, is a reward of existence....

it is possible that we may not agree on some...perfectly ok....to me, it is not a fight, it is not about winning an argument, it is not about proving a point...life has thought me that winning arguments does not solve/dissolve miseries...or suffering...

also , we may create our own images of people, acquired from various accumalations....which may or may not be "them" , as they are...let us give them the benefit of doubt, before we rush to judge and condemn or shut off....life has shown us how often we have been off the mark...as we learn and evolve....

for me, fellow blog spaces are like mirrors...as i would like to be for them...

i cherish the privilege of space shares with fellow humans wherever they have been accorded ...it has been a critical part of my evolutionary process...thank you...

with wishes for each one of us to actualize our deepest needs in evolutionary discoveries...

shubham karoti kalyanam
arogyam dhansampada
shatrubudhi vinashaaya ( as different from shatru!!!!!!!)
deepjyoti namostute...

a very happy diwali( festival of lights..within and without) to all of u......

pearls from einstein - a mystic as i see him...

"A human being is a part of a whole, called by us,the universe, a part
limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and
feelings as something separated from the rest... a kind of optical
delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for
us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few
persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this
prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living
creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
- Albert Einstein

the human crisis...as i see it...

at an individual level, deep down, our houses are on fire..but we are so numbed; it is a kind of anaesthesia we have administered ourselves through sorrow management mechanisms ( individual and collective) to create an illusion of security.

not our fault , really ; seems to have happened for whatever reason, where we have got disconnected from our cores...some critical link snapped...we are out of sync with life..every moment is a burden we carry and try to fill up...

not denying that there would be exceptions, either... a few might be enjoying dynamic linkages with their cores...and feel totally in sync, in harmony...

otherwise, everyone is an arjuna, riddled with conflict, numbed, paralysed....the difference as I see it, is that arjuna was alive to his pain, to his suffering, to his state of conflict..

and that made, krishna "happen" in his life...

an old indian adage, when the field is ready, the seed will come....

the question is whether we wanna keep escaping or face our realities squarely; our insecurities, our fears, our meaninglessness, boredom, indifference, begging for love, vulnerabilities, humiliation in defeats etc.....some of us are moving corpses, merely existing, not living; going through the motions because we have to...almost like a twig in the vast ocean...battered by the waves....of circumstance...

the moment we are in touch with ourselves "integrally", the whole of creation is on standby to help us...

Integrity is the key in evolutionary processes.

in my perspective, spiritual explores are not a pastime, as they tend to become; they are critical essentials to deliver us our basic rights of joy, love and bliss, should we feel a need for it.

but then, we have to feel the suffocation in our lives and feel the need to break free; into a space that is independent of circumstances...

also , we can share only what we have...happy, joyous people can spread the joy....by just being themselves........the energy can be infectious....

relationships.....

when people relate colloquially, what do they bring to the table...their own legacy of conditionalities acquired from myriad sources...could be education processes, social processes, fundamental childhood decisions, past-life impressions( dunno if that is a reality to you; to me , it is...) etc.

What we are in essence is an emergence from a "pattern" - a kind of blueprint that determines our persona...

our lives today are guided by the mind....and its contents...to me, that is where the root cause of misery lies....the mind is a wonderful faculty, a wonderful tool, for say, creating a software programme or for making a table or for creating countries......so on and so forth...

but it is useless in inner world realms....like joy and love and bliss and so on....not condemning it...i see it as a fundamental incapacity...it just is not equipped ....

The mind cannot be the driver of our lives as it has become today..we should be able to drive the mind....it is essentially a hard disk..storage of memories...can be used...cannot be the processor....

do you remember the famous picture of the Bhagavad Gita, the 5 horses, Krishna and Arjuna...To me, the 5 horses represent the the world of the sense organs, the mind content sensors...when krishna is absent, the horses pull arjuna in different directions, chaotic, full of conflict, miserable....can only result in destruction...it is significant to note krishna's positioning; he comes in as a charioteer, to reign in the horses....

for me, krishna is symbolic of our spiritual cores; the witness within each of us which is different from the mind and its realms....the anchor within....

the mind cannot be controlled....this has been india's single greatest discovery in my opinion...mind , breath and kundalini( psychic energies) are inter-connected....neither mind nor kundalini can be controlled.....india's discovery is that "breath" can be controlled.....the seeds of yoga and pranayama....regulation of breath can regulate the mind....

hence , so many processes revolving around breathing patterns...

we "try" to relate in mind spaces....that can only be contextual, conditional....for the mind with its legacies comes with its own positionalities....which can only be managed in the context of relationships.....

to me, relationships occur from our cores, beyond mind spaces...it just is....not conditional....it is essentially a spiritual space....all -encompassing, all- embracing...to relate is to live...experiencing the oneness...

it is this core which has to guide....and the mind, directed....not the other way round, the mind directing....the mind can address issues such as financial security, opportunities etc....nothing wrong.....it is a sacred faculty.....but it is incapable of love, incapable of joy....there is always a residue....due to its functioning in domains of comparison...

will illustrate it with an eg in one of our scriptures...

a frog ran upto a man and pleaded with him...it wanted to be saved, a snake was pursuing it....the man's code of ethics "demanded" that he save the frog...."code of ethics" , here , represents a conceptual creation for social convenience. in a while, the snake comes upto him and demands that he release the frog as it has not eaten anything for the past 2 weeks.The man is in a dilemna...his "code" again demands that he should not keep the snake hungry....

conflict....

situation 1: he addresses it from his mind; tries to analyse it....ends up paralysed....can't do anything...any decision he takes will leave a residual conflict within....a degree of unsureness..

that is a fundamental attribute of the mind...the sense of fulfilment , completion is not there...always a lingering doubt, an uncertainty...a residue of discontent...

situation 2: he just takes a decision..for the moment..it could be either..there is no demand from within for consistency as the mind domain would demand....he can respond differently at different moments in time for identical situational triggers...

"management" is possible in the mind realms; resolution or dissolution is impossible..when an action is "completed", joy remains....and completion is possible only from the "heart"....

spirituality is a shifting of life guidances to the heart..does not mean the mind is not in the picture...the mind is guided rather than being the source of guidance...the witness consciousness is awakened...the dynamic spiritual dimension , whose natural attributes are joy and love...not a matter of effort as in the mind realms...spirituality is the "absence" of "conflict"....

great creations still happen...but in joy and love; not bereft of it....

the intrinsic nature of "experience" is bliss, love , joy ; irrespective of the content of experience....and to "experience", one has to be liberated of the mind filters....liberation is a freeing of the senses from the clutches of the mind...

and then we relate.....

in processes, i see our evolution in "relating" as the pathways to freedom and liberation...

-inspirations from my master

native american wisdom on life...

A native American grandfather was talking to his grandson about how he felt.

He said 'I feel as if I have two wolves fighting in my heart. One wolf is the vengeful, angry, violent one. The other wolf is the loving, compassionate one.'

The grandson asked him, 'Which wolf will win the fight in your heart?'

The grandfather answered: 'The one I feed.'

my notes: all of us are capable of everything in acquired legacies from human mind consciousness...awareness holds the key in a choice between reactionary aspects and responsive aspects in life....

restless river...

the river is restless in its flow towards the ocean....gurgling, noisy, rushing.......but as it reaches the ocean, it sublimes....in much the same manner as man meets his beloved...all agitation rests...silence reigns in the merging....

- from a sufi poem

krishna..a perennial inspiration...

krishna....joyous, playful,committed, intense,focussed,compassionate,integral ,rebellious, passionate, sensitive , sensual and so much more..the inspirer of so much romance and creatives the world over....incomplete without his flute and the longing of radha....the music in creation just flows through him..... love and joy incarnate.....not at all boring.....throbbing with life.....the dance of a mystic.... much of indian artforms , be it song, dance, sculpture or paintings find inspiration in him.....

a random rememberance.....to a master artiste, as i perceive him...the embodiment of the artform of life.....

morality...

fidelity blues ... a posting a few days back evoked a few email responses...just some more perspectives..morality as an enforced adherence parameter is what suffocates..natural emergences are spontaneous and never burdensome...sadly, most institutionalised intimacy falls into the trap of "living upto projected ideals" of how they are meant to be. Conceptual adherence is what becomes burdensome. "Love thy neighbour" sounds beautiful..but in a situation of so much low self esteem and self hate, it becomes tough to actualize it. Rather than pursue a projected ideal and try to reach there, I prefer starting at my reality space..see that it is not there...from that reality, one can grow...

we would like to be so many things; but we are not that...we "try" to "care", we "try" to "love"...

i find that effort pathetic...a struggle...without any results deep within.

i would rather see that i am not able to care, not able to love...an understanding in awareness then enables love to "happen"...within us...a fountainhead that flows through activities....it is not activity dependent, it is not people specific; love is something that just is...an intrinsic part of us..it is like a river, flooding all in its wake... a state of being...

we still may "like" certain people, "like" to share special spaces with them; ...perfectly fine to feel an attraction and desire to share space...love has to manifest in that space..

the state of love manifests when we "relate" from the core of the beings; the domain of the unchangeable....aspects of "liking" can change, mutate...love can live through those...it is an underlying aspect....fundamental to existence...a state of being....

Silence...enabler of manifests...

The unchangeable can only be realised in silence. Once realised, it will deeply affect the changeable, itself remaining unaffected.
-unknown author

lights all around...

love the festival of lights and its ambience...so colorful....so energetic...the lights, electric and the more traditional come out in all their splendour....celebrate...

judging....

in judging, we stall "experiencing"....and creation, unlike the mind and its need for "patterns" offers paradoxical mix 'n' matches....it is not limited by the need to conform...nor does it seek "approvals"....it just is..

authenticity....

The Master was never impressed by diplomas or degrees.He scrutinized the person,not the certificate.
He was once heard to say,"When you have ears to hear a bird in song,you don't need to look at its credentials.

- anthony de mello

everyday heroes...

recently attended the launch of a music group....featuring a differently abled person aided by his sister, also a very good singer...yet another of innumerable occasions to feel inspired by the human spirit...so many odds, the struggle, the hope....

the recent deluge in mumbai was an opportunity to watch such spirit at work....csws(commercial sex workers ) helping people tide over; i myself was helped by a group of slum children who guided me through a difficult lane , indicating where the storm gutters were, so that I did not slip into it....was often left wondering, they probably had their homes washed off in the deluge...

that may challenge deep set stereotype positionalities for some...

the mumbai riots and its aftermath, the bomb blasts also brought so many touching human expressions to the fore...like a lady i remember in Dharavi, Khaleda.....who would dare to go to the streets and pick up the injured all by herself...and bring them to the local mosque compound which was a point of collection for our rescue teams....neither , the wo/menfolk of her locality nor the clerics supported her.... she was a one man army who might have enabled the saving of more than a 100 people....irrespective of their religious or other denominations...

have often observed street children get together to save one of their fraternity who might be ill...normally, everyone is a threat, a competition...a spare shirt is given to the laundry and never collected..because it may get stolen while they sleep....but i remember this boy, murugan, who took seriously ill and needed hospitalization...grant road station....a helpline outreach had got in touch from nana chowk...when i reached the place and organized some adhoc donations to enable the boy's admission.....a few of those kids who already knew me...came up to me saying they would like to contribute....it was a dilemna...knowing their states...but then not giving them an opportunity to help one of their fraternity to me did not make sense....they spread a handkerchief; everyone ran here and there; and they brought out various resources from their various hiding places....i knew the extent of saving of some of the boys....i saw them give off everything....holding nothing back....

to my suggestion that they give only a part of it, they just nonchalantly said, "fikar mat karo...kal phir haath paiir chala lenge...." they earned money through various loading jobs....

I dont know about you guys, I still do not have the capacity to give off all I have materially to anyone...there is always a hold back....

the human spirit..always throbbing, if we only pause to hear it....

for me, given a long period of association with the ngo sector, both organized and ad hoc....my contributions would never match my personal enrichment..it has been invaluable...and when i experience my own roadblocks, it serves me well, when i see the odds stacked against some of these guys....

our essence

love.....causeless; joy .....limitlesss - our very essence.

-sri bhagavan

Time....

Imagine there is a bank that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening the bank deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course! Each of us has such a bank. Its name is TIME. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours. There is no going back. There is no drawing against the "tomorrow." You must live in the present on today's deposits. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success!

The clock is running. Make the most of today.

To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a student who failed a grade.

To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.

To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who missed the train.

To realize the value of ONE-SECOND, ask a person who just avoided an accident.

Treasure every moment that you have! And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time. Remember that time waits for no one. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it's called the present!
-Unknown author

perceptions...

2 women were chatting by the window pane.The owner of the house was commenting on a lady drying clothes on a clothesline in the adjoining lawn. She was being critical, commenting that the clothes appeared so soiled and dirty even after the washing.

It was then that her friend mentioned that the dirt was on her window-pane , not on the clothes.

very often, being aware of the lenses through which we observe is the key.

learning bytes...

generally, when we lose interest in a subject or a situation, it is not because we have learnt all there is to be learnt from the subject or situation.More often than not , we are unable to see what more we can learn from the subject or the situation.

twins-a parable...

Once upon a time, twin boys were conceived. Weeks passed and the twins developed. As their awareness grew, they laughed for joy: "Isn't it great that we were conceived? Isn't it great to be alive? " Together the twins explored their worlds. When they found their mother's cord that gave them life, they sang for joy! "How great our mother's love is, that she shares her own life with us!" As weeks stretched into months, the twins noticed how much each was changing. "What does it mean?" one asked. "It means our stay in this world is drawing to an end." said the other. "But I don't want to go," said one. "I want to stay here always." "We have no choice," said the other. "But maybe there is life after birth." "But how can there be?" responded one. "We will shed our life cord and how can life be pos sible without it? Besides, we have seen evidence that others were here before us, and none of them has returned to tell us there is life after birth. No, this is the end. Maybe there is no mother after all." "But there has to be," protested the other. "How else did we get here? How do we remain alive?" "Have you ever seen our mother?" said one. "Maybe she only lives in our minds. Maybe we made her up because the idea made us feel good." So the last days in the womb were filled with deep questioning and fear. Finally, the moment of birth arrived. When the twins had passed from their world, they opened their eyes and cried for joy - for what they saw exceeded their fondest dreams. That is birth ... and that is death.
-Unknown author

fidelity blues....

fidelity is a morality concept that contributes to many a misery....a friend was recently sharing her insecurities which prompts this post....

some of my perspectives may challenge existing notions.....but i find a clarity of a perception a critical need to address the issue.....and sometimes to reach clarity, we have to strip ourselves of our perceptions nakedly and see them...

relationships in fuctional domains more often than not is transactional and qualified by life-administrative aspects. It is not unconditional space the way it is.

No judgements on that..it is a choice some of us make.

some of us aspire for unconditionality and it requires as much giving as taking in space domains.It is not easy, but then mebbe it is really worth it....

to relate in the absence of possessiveness and other allied attributes has its own unique spiritual flavours..it emerges out of an understanding that it is what relating is all about....else one is transacting...on mutual needs

....it does not entail denial of possessiveness or other attributes....some of us feel suffocated in existing paradigms of relating and explore alternative domains.....

to me , to relate is to be able to accept, to trust unconditionally.....

it is about moments shared in such ambience.....and an ability to respect freedom of expression in other moments as one would chose it to be....conditionality applies to activity or a set of activities and is more administrative in perspective.

to relate , to me, is an ambience of underlying acceptance and love, something i feel most of us tend to confuse with "like".

"insecurity" is within us......and needs to be addressed...."fidelity issues" can be administratively "managed" , but somewhere basic questions on relating have to be addressed for "growth in love".

most of transactional relates have their emergence in our fundamental fears, vulnerabilities and insecurities.We find our security in the "feeling" of being "needed" by the other.our lives sometimes tragically , is a struggle to increase the other's dependency on us to sustain our "need" for feeling "needed".

No problems as long as we are able to see it for what it is. else, some of the emergences in such spaces can be downright disappointing and contrary to desirables as we perceive them.

No accident that the phrase "falling" in love has been coined somewhere in human consciousness rather than "rising" ( no pun intended) in love.Can we through our relationships expand our whole canvas of love?

challenged....

sometimes what we see and observe, challenges concepts or beliefs we closely hold on to.some of us prefer to shut off...but that does not help..our conflicts get re-inforced by shutting out....we need to face the conflicts squarely.....only then can a solution or dissolution be effected.conflict management attitudes have to make way for a conflict resolution perspective..else , we just sweep things under the carpet.....for it to manifest manifold someday....

manifests....

have been facing a few roadblocks on my road to manifest my conceives...am spending time with myself to identify them and ensure free flows....for starters , i have been able to identify roadblocks in specific areas rather then in all aspects..the flow is happening in certain domains..inhibited in other domains....guess, am still missing some learnings..am at it....

all the best to myself and to all in similar processes..whatever be the domains of addressal...

awareness...

Awareness is ever there. It need not be realized. Open the shutter of the mind, and it will be flooded with light.

- unknown author

tag notes...

have been tagged by nyneisha( a very creative expressor in words, visuals etc)....so here goes...

seven or more things I want to do:

• get a new computer asap..lost mine during the 26/7 deluge in Mumbai.
• finish a celebrity house build event successfully in Nov....am an event consultant and helping reconstruct about 1000 houses for the flood affected at Mahad through innovative event concepts for an NGO.
• create a win win feedline for the BPO sector in India through the setting up of a creative customer service training centre for the differently abled......the networking and allied works are underway.
• manifest more wealth energy for myself....resource crunches can be very limiting.
• sustain and build on existing friends...enrich myself with more friendships.
• spend more quality time with my mom.
• change the paradigm of events and celebrity management....am one of the pioneers in that space in India and do not feel very fulfilled creatively and professionally...
• identify and work with a venture fundee/s who tunes in to my perspectives...ideas are many but to give them legs is a dream.....
• improve fitness levels

Some things i wanna weed out...

• procrastination
• unconscious mechanizations of my activity sphere.
• indifference to wealth energy creation.
• dead wood legacies in consciousness.
• dwelling too long in non-starters and failures.
• tendencies to defend my life perspectives....
• improper or adhoc personal prioritizations.

Words I use frequently:

• integrity
• authenticity
• unconditional
• wow
• perspective
• amma
• personal space
• personal choice
• seeing

fellow bloggers i wish to tag( dont know most of u personally; just as fellow bloggers); seems a fun exercise; a request to join in, not a command....

• gaizabonts - atul
• leave it unsaid - arundhati
• evolving everyday - sophie
• let the cut begin - poonam
• visual essays - sushma
• polioman - poonam arundhati combo
• step down - anuva

...in shared space as fellow humans, take care..have a gr8 festive season....

something, somewhere....elusive....

A single woman and her son lived by themselves in the city.Their lives revolved around each other.

One day, both of them went to a local "fun-fair", a mela.Engrossed in the colour and the entertainment, they were enjoying themselves, when suddenly, the woman realized that her son was missing.

She was distraught.She searched here and there but of no avail.She made a police complaint.But he was nowhere to be found.

A week, passed , then a month. He was still missing.

The woman was in no mood to eat anything. Her relatives tried consoling her, but it did not work. The wound was too raw and fresh.

6 months passed and a year. Some of the live pain had subsided or rather it appeared to be. It was suppressed to an extent. She was eating something now and then. But a kind of listlessness filled her being.

A direct impact of the suppression.

She was merely managing her pain, it had not been released.

Soon, her relatives extolled her to start some tuitions, to keep her mind occupied. It was tough to concentrate but she relented.

Soon her tuitions became a big enterprise. She created an institution.All her time was occupied, no time to think of anything else.

The sorrow of losing her son remained, albeit a distant memory. She was still listless, but often wondered why?

Her pain was not alive....It was present but deep within, unobserved , unconscious...


Can we see the same in our lives....some missing link( call it God or what you may), long forgotten and elaborately suppressed through "management" mechanisms.

We try to fill up our lives in myriad ways, but each attempt only makes the void more pronounced. Activities qualify our lives; for some of us it is spending time at the bar, for others it is sex, for yet others , it is religion....all mechanisms originating from teh sense of discomfort we dare not face, the sense of security that all of us seek through various concepts. To the vast majority of us who "believe" in God, that too is not "real" to us.It is the projection of a concept.To those of us who dont, that is just an "alternative" concept.

None of us really "know".

The misery, the boredom, the meaningless hit us time and again , peeping in through our management mechanisms.

Can escaping the basic pain and misery of boredom and meaninglessness ever be a solution.It only leads to a temporal cosmetic arrangement, a way to manage our pain.

Being in touch with that fundamental pain is the key to a million or more locks in our lives.To be in touch is to be aware.

The fundamental ignorance and pain is our "reality". To me, it makes sense to start there; it is a fact of our lives; and from there on move to facts as they evolve for us....does not mean we have to reject concepts. But we have to be constantly aware that they are "concepts as yet for us."

And to be aware is to be freed......

We live and act, dont just react.....

In my perspective, to escape constantly and not be in touch with our cores is to condemn ourselves to a life of mediocrity and meaninglessness. One has live in awareness every moment.

-inspirations from my master

as an ancient Indian prayer expresses....

Asatoma Satgamaya......from the unreal lead us to the real...

Tamasoma Jyotirgamaya.....from darkness lead us to light....

Mrityorma Amritangamaya.....from death lead us to immortality....

Om Shanti Shanti Shantihi......

mind filters hide reality...

The mind covers up reality, without knowing it. To know the nature of the mind, you need intelligence, the capacity to look at the mind in silent and dispassionate awareness.

-unknown author

human abuse

Human abuse stories abound across the globe.While we would like to believe that education and development minimise such situations, observations do not vindicate the point.

I have see a writer on child abuse himself be a perpetuator within the confines of his home; I have seen highly travelled and qualified technocrats being very petty, parochial and downright abusive in their domestic contexts.Abuse in interpersonal spaces is not as rare as we would imagine it to be.Horror stories of mental and physical abuse abound.

Lip service to concepts of liberation and human freedom comfortably co-exist with ongoing perpetuations.

Personally , I see such insensitivity and violence stemming from a chronic "unhappiness". We can only spread what we have. And most of us are carrying legacies of frustration, depressive tendencies, resentment, indifference and other such qualities which hardly can be termed joyous.

Each one of us owe it to ourselves and to societies we are part of to discover domains of spontaneous love and joy within us.The rose can only spread its fragrance.If the fragrance itself has got contaminated, no amount of external spraying of fragrances can substitute the original, natural fragrance.

While we may conceptually identify with certain "concepts" of caring and compassion, we often become what we hate.It unconsciously creeps in to the best of us.Each one of us needs to remain guarded against such a possibility.

Degrees and doctorates are immaterial , so also location. Conflicts within manifest in the external.Some societies are better equipped in the external space to "manage" these outbreaks, but to me, while they are critical, a mere symptomatic addressal may never be enough.

mind silence - fountainhead of creativity...

The king called his favourite bell-maker and ordered for a special bell to be made; of a kind the world would not have seen before.

The bell maker asked for 6 months to complete the project . The king was astonished. He wanted it fast.

The bell maker explained that he needed 4 months to allow his mind to slip into silence. Then , he had to spend a month in choosing the right tree stump for the bell.

After that, he said, the bell would merely flow out of him.......

A quiet mind is all you need. All else will happen rightly, once your mind is quiet. As the sun on rising makes the world active, so does self-awareness affect changes in the mind. In the light of calm and steady self-awareness inner energies wake up and work miracles without effort on your part.

The witnessing awareness to me is the state of meditation.

associations- our own creation...

words and labels have their own automatic imaging system within us.we associate a lot of things depending on our mindsets with words and labels. thus there are ngo kinds....., the yoga kinds....the spiritual kinds....the wild kinds..... so on and so forth. Our minds conjure up the vision of a person , born out of our "labelling" of him/her.We also "label" ourselves and try to fit in.

We are shocked when people's behaviour does not fit into "our image" of them.

but then , observation shows us that each of us is unique.There are as many permutations and combinations of personalities as the number of people who exhibit those. No 2 humans are alike in creation. Broad patterns may exist, but there is a discernible uniqueness.

somewhere in pre-judging and labeling, we miss out on savouring and enjoying each person we encounter in life.

also, we tend to focus on a couple of attributes of the person.

wo/man's life is like a piece of tapestry; interwoven, it creates a pattern....to remove one strand in isolation and judge it more often than not is skewed.

eyes of the beholder....

was reminded of a movie I had seen a few years back, "the eyes of the beholder"....was a common part of various management exercises then.

the first half of the movie builds up a person as seen by various people in his life; his mom, his girlfriend, his caretaker, his employer and so on....a break is given in between and people are asked to build their own images of the person in q.
After the break, the person is shown as he really is...

a real eyeopener on the gap between perceptions and reality.....

Meditation....

i see the word "meditation" being used quite often by people. for me, it has been the subject of much explore, as I could never observe a consistency in associations with its usage.

liberation has been a fundamental projected goal for mankind from time immemorial.various addressals of this have enabled the creation of various strategies and techniques of usage.

Please note that the context of my explores is strictly personal ; it has helped me.

essentially, liberation needs a "going beyond" the contents of the mind, as the contents of the mind are the source of our mental formations and perceptions , which serve to bind us with various acquired positionalities.

merely re-arranging the contents of the mind and re-orienting our perceptions are "management" of the contents; which is helpful, albeit temporarily.It is shift from one concept to another, without always being accompanied by the awareness that both are essentially concepts.

I have seen the word meditation being used to describe "dhyana" - which is essentially "concentration"; "dharana" , which is internalization; "samadhi" , which is essentially our drowning into universal consciousness through a specific one pointed activity, accompanied by concentration and grace. To me, all these are beautiful, but they are lead-ons to a state of meditation.

For me, meditation is a "happenening" , a state where the "witness consciousness" is awakened and flows across events comfortably.It is a situation where the "positionality" of the mind is shaken and it becomes fluid.It does not mean that we dont retain our "perceptions, it merely means that we are able to see them as "our" perceptions.We accept other points of view comfortably in such a situation, without being overly resistive or trying to bring around the other to our way of thinking.No energies are dissipated in "conflicts" of "right" and "wrong".Every part of the link in consciousness is critical.

To me , to "relate" is essentially a total and unconditional acceptance of the other.

very often, i have seen that in our efforts at "meditation", we often strengthen unconsciously the very objects we seek liberation from.

The perspective of this post is not to be critical or judgemental of any processes one may be tuning in with.I have traversed through various techniques and processes in the quest of discovering something that would "work" for me.

The sharing is in that context. We have to see what works for us, if we are in an explorative process.We have to "experience" desirable results for us.

shut off..

sometimes , we are uncomfortable hearing or reading certain things; because they serve as reminders that we need and we would rather "escape" them. Things we need to learn most are ironically the things we are extremely resistive to.

my learning has been that the teachers recur in different avatars until we learn.

Truth reminds us from myriad sources. We mostly tend to focus on the sources, rather than on our responses to the stimuli. Secure concepts we have taken refuge in are threatened in such stimuli. The role of stimuli as I see it, is to test our concepts and then to faciltate a stronger adherence or a drop off.

Shutting off merely "manages" a conflict. To me, it indicates, shakiness and off-centring within.

Always , a matter of personal choices , though.

nekoosa indian poem

Native American Wisdom about making life beautiful :

"You... whose day this is,make it BEAUTIFUL.Get out your rainbow colors,that it may be beautiful."

emptiness...

music needs the hollowness of the flute; letters, the blankness of the paper; light, the void called a window; sacredness, the absence of the self.

- Anthony De Mello

life - a mystery...

life is the entire canvas with nothing excluded....our condemnations, judgements, guilt,embarassment etc make us block certain expressions as we perceive them as being right or wrong in the context of perceptions we have accumalated.The hues and colors of life are a given in the universal mind.

By rejecting some and accepting some, we are limiting ourselves.

Acceptance helps us to respond; rejection enforces suppresion of "perceived non-desirables".

our "perceived desirables" on personality content are more often than not dictated by "fears of peer rejection" , social alienation and so on.

In my opinion, social interaction necessitates the wearing of a few masks sometimes.Due to collective aspects of judgements and so on.

However, the danger is in our trying to beleive that we are something we are not. Not many of us maturely discriminate between our projections and our reality.

And that does not help us ; "integrity" and "acceptance" are critical keys to growth.
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life is not a problem to be solved ; it is a mystery to be lived , loved and experienced....
-osho

fear is the key........

all of us experience fear at various moments in our lives....we develop our own "management" mechanisms to handle these.To me , most of these qualify as "escape" mechanisms, giving us temporary mitigation....fears resurface, albeit in a different context. When we handle our "fear" in a context, we dont release ourselves of fear, we release ourselves of the context as a medium of fear. The fear remains, re-manifesting itself in other domains.

This observation made me analyse "fear" itself rather than the events through which it manifests.

if we observe the "feeling" of fear as a stand-alone, we cannot associate it with any particular cause.The nature of the feeling is the same, be it emerging from any source. seemingly.

given this fact, the inference is that the "events" by themselves are not the "source" of fear.

Fear manifests "through" them, not "from" them.

fear is an underlying presence in our consciousness.

also, in related explores, i found that "fear" creates the events rather than the other way round, as we colloquially tend to perceive.

Given such a fact, I was barking up the wrong tree when it came to adddressing my fear.I was looking at the "events" when I had to look at consciousness and its tunings in me.And when i started looking there , with my discoveries on the process of "seeing/experiencing"( elsewhere in this blog), I was able to make breakthroughs.

instead of running away from events which enable various surfacing such as fears, I now accept them as critical teachers who are there to help me. I do not resent them.In resenting, condemning or running away from them, I was missing my learning.When i stayed with the actual "suffering" in fear, i was part of creation's grand design which manifests at the "moment".

Normally, when one focusses on the immediate cause of the fear, one moves "backward" in time....when one projects a solution to "manage" the fear, one moves "forward". In either case, we miss the moment and the learning associated with it.

experiencing...as it is...

experience has been my best teacher...but an increased "ability" to experience has been a critical driver of my explores...i have been able to see the limitations of my abilities , given the conditionings and mental formations that tend to color it...the process of "seeing" has evolved...at one level , one sees mechanically , dead....at a different level, one is more "aware" as one sees....however, the mind associations come into play...valuation, judgement etc , all born in comparisons with existing contents of the mind....i was able to break through into a very enriched level of seeing ; being able to also see my mind constructs at play while watching an event....then , i started "experiencing" things just as they were, breaking through layers of "what it could be through my perceptions"

.....it is a continually , evolving process..as i learn to see as i watch....

and i bumped into another "discovery".....when we just "experience", irrespective of the nature or content of the event, the process of "experiencing" is intrinsically accompanied by "bliss". in actual experiencing, one is "liberated" of the constructs of the mind...then, we "respond" , we do not "react"......to events....

also, "teachers" as in "chronic repetitive crippling patterns, that seemed to like me very much....!!" , dropped off when i "saw" them this way...it is like a teacher moving on after we have learnt what is to be learnt of him/her....as i no longer required for my growth at that moment....

i had read in innumerable texts and tenets about joy and bliss.....but it remained a mirage for me, a "projected ideal", always elusive. when i focussed on the process of "seeing" and it's related capacities, rather than on the content of my "seeing", its made a sea-change.

needless to add, am still in learning processes....sharing as i learn....not from dominative ego-centres...discoveries are so awesome, they make you realize how little you really know, naturally makes you humble...incapacitates pride , rather than enforce a modesty...

The 4th Dimension.....

when we address events or issues , either at micro or at macro levels, I have observed levels of addressal....

At the first level,the physical dimension of manifests, it is a kind of welfare perspective, the bandages and the tincture, a very critical need , an immediate addressal.

At the 2nd level,the psychological level, a certain critical mass in humanity addresses the issue.

From welfare , it acquires a developmental hue.

As an eg, I recollect my work with the NGO, CRY- Child Relief and You.

At a certain moment, it was realised that the issue of deprivation for the child needed to become a social issue with large scale mass participation. When enough people think alike , it creates a critical mass of energy for large scale addressals.

The 3rd Dimension , the moral dimension, guides the 2nd.It decides that such a happening is unacceptable and needs to be addressed.

In my personal life explores, I found this 3rd dimension being orphaned.

Morality, i perceived was dictated by dead habit emerging either out of religious beliefs or some similar motivator.The addressal was very philanthropic in content and approach, hopelessly out of tune, with the reality of the current times.

Juxtapose this against a dynamic spirituality, which is the 4th dimension. An awakening of this dimension has repurcussions on the other dimensions spontaneously.It is not a matter of enforced adherence or conceptual beliefs.It emerges out of self actualization and realization.

The criticality of this dimension in addressing issues at the micro or the macro level has been a crucial personal discovery for me. Its ability to manifest is much higher.

Addressal of symptoms is very limited in its scope of deliverables...an understanding and addressal of root issues at micro levels is the need of the hour.

A lot of us are disillusioned with the state of affairs in the world. We crib about the need to deal with violence, bring in peace, create a world of more equitable opportunity etc.

The critical addressal of these issues is within each of us.The conflicts we carry at individual levels magnify as a collective into the global conflict. The macro situation does not emerge in isolation. Its seeds are in the micro collective.

Each one of us is contributing to the violence in the world through the conflicts/violence within us.

And each one us owe it to ourselves to discover love and joy....within ourselves. The change outside would naturally follow. No amount of political redressals of issues can bear fruit until energized by an awakened 4th dimension.

If one is happy, one spreads happiness, if one is unhappy one spreads unhappiness..Unhappiness is an epidemic in today's society - frustrations, depressions,resentments etc..

How then do we create a joyous and happy society, which is extremeley creative.....?.Only through micro-level changes....

The 4th dimension is diverse in its manifests. It is authenticated by experience and is a personal truth which brings in the conviction naturally, not in an enforced manner.